Narnia, The North Pole, and The Friendzone: What Do They Have In Common?
With Valentine’s coming around the corner, many people are trying to get their crush to like them. For at least a few people, this might end in their crush telling them they like them as a friend and nothing more, leaving them in the dreaded “friendzone.” But, instead of whining about how much the friend zone sucks online, maybe they should reconsider. “I feel that usually males decide to make up the friendzone to save their egos that are usually very inflated. The friendzone is not real,” said Faith Bartolo ‘18
Within a sea of fedoras, the slogan ‘nice guys finish last’ is constantly muttered amongst the population of the “friendzone”. Many nice guys/girls seem to think that, because they act nice and polite towards their crush, their crush must like them back. “It seems like an excuse for being single, because they want to be in a relationship with their crush, but their crush doesn’t like them like that so they just complain about it and say that because they feel like they’re the ones being betrayed when really they’re the reason why they’re single,” said Alex Clark ‘17. If they do not, they immediately go to complain about people only falling for rude, impolite, and delinquent-esque people. They seem to believe that being nice entitles them to having their crush like them back, even if they never share their true intentions behind their actions. For some reason, in their minds, being a decent human being deserves a reward.
After their crush’s rejection, they immediately go to treating friendship like some sort of punishment and complain that their crush does not like them back. They have officially entered the made up land they label as “the friend zone.” When they go online to complain about this new stage of their poor, tortured lives, others seem to agree. This validates only validates their angry, upset feelings. They’re validated in their belief that it is a crime to not like them back, even though they were being so nice. The population of the friendzone bands together in their loneliness and complains that people only like bad boys/girls. “If a guy likes a girl and the girl doesn’t like him like that, you can friendzone him by just saying ‘oh you’re a really great friend’. Yeah, it’s a real thing, but it’s also an excuse for why they can’t get a relationship,” said Abby Gunn ‘18
In reality, it is not a crime to not like someone back. It is not a crime to not want to date someone solely on the fact that they act decent towards someone. So this Valentine’s day, consider not complaining about being rejected. Instead, deal with the rejection in a positive way: accept that they do not like you romantically and be glad that they still like you platonically. “If you like a specific person, it kinda sucks, but at the same time it’s better because you get to hang out with them without having the complication of a relationship while being friends with them,” said Todd Ramirez ‘18. Try to move on.